First, let me start off by saying that this is not a blog posting in regards to my show “On The Corner of Apples and Diamonds” on KTUH. This posting is mainly for educational purposes in regards to COM 432, a class I’m taking at the University. We are required to use a blog or other forms of media to address a situation that faces society today. So, since I have a blog already, I decided to use this one.
The topic I chose for this assignment was narcissism and social networking. I understand this topic probably the best because I myself am on Facebook a lot throughout the week and see the people who have literally thousands of friends and probably don’t even talk to three-fourths of them. So my stance in this problem is that I am against it.
The general consensus to most people is that “thou who has more friends and pictures on Facebook is more popular”. That is definitely not the case. While it shows that you may know or have known tons of people throughout your lifetime, so has everyone else. It’s just that they don’t go and try to find each and everyone of them on Facebook. The narcissism that takes place among our wall posts and messages is incredible. I haven’t taken notice until this class discussed it but I realize just how many people that I associate with are narcissists on these social networking sites.
One of my friends who I consider close constantly posts status updates at least five-to-six times a day. He just sees something or encounters something that he thinks is interesting and reports it to Facebook, cramming my news feed and I’m sure other people’s as well.
But that’s not the bad part. Many people that are the narcissistic of them all are the one’s that constantly take pictures of themselves. These actions paint a picture of them being self-centered and, while a love for the camera can be good, there is a line that you must draw. My friend’s cousin constantly takes pictures of her face and in the mirror and it’s rather annoying to keep on seeing her pictures and it’s the same thing. She has about fifty pictures (give or take) of just her. If that’s not narcissistic, I don’t know what is.
In an article I read entitled “Facebook’s ‘dark side’: study finds link to socially aggressive narcissism”, they studied 294 students at Western Illinois University for their habits on Facebook. They found two narcissistic qualities that can lead to more problems. They were GE (grandiose exhibitionism) and EE (entitlement/exploitativeness).
GE, in short form, is basically people who strive to be the center of attention. They write outlandish and rather shocking things on Facebook in order to gain attention and make people talk about them. They need the attention. EE is basically the willingness to step on other people to get what they want. They are not afraid of taking advantage of their friends and acquaintances. According to the article, the people who scored high on these categories are more likely to accept friend requests from strangers among other things.
This article made me realize that this type of behavior needs to end. How can we raise our children the right way when they will more than likely get a Facebook at an early age and see this going on? Granted they probably won’t have friends that are talking like that but it’s something to think about.
And what happens if these people translate their behavior on Facebook to real life. Imagine the unbearableness of these people and how worse the world would be if people that act outlandish on Facebook act the same way in public. I know we have a fair share of these people now and you can say that a lot of them are like that because of Facebook. This trend has begun and we need to stop it. It is a tough task to do because you can’t change how people act. But, if Facebook can continue to regulate some of the things that its users are allowed to do, then we can possibly keep this behavior off of our computers at the least.
Pearse, Damien. “Facebook’s ‘dark Side’: Study Finds Link to Socially Aggressive Narcissism.” The Guardian. Guardian News and Media, 17 Mar. 2012. Web. 27 Apr. 2012. <http://www.guardian.co.uk/technology/2012/mar/17/facebook-dark-side-study-aggressive-narcissism?CMP=twt_gu>.